By Brittany Leitner
Managing editor

People shouldn’t get so angry about Rihanna’s getting back together with Chris Brown.

When your parents say you aren’t allowed to keep seeing a boy, it becomes your mission to see him anyway. So what do you do when the whole world is telling you to stop seeing someone? Apparently, you take to Instagram and Twitter and tell everyone to shut the fuck up.

It’s been over two years since police photos leaked to TMZ of Rihanna’s badly bruised and swollen face as a result of a physical fight with boyfriend Chris Brown. Since then, they’ve gone through the steps any broken up couple goes through nowadays. They took time apart, they stopped following each other on Twitter, they worked on their art.

But Brown and Rihanna are no ordinary couple. Rihanna had a public interview about the incident with Oprah. Brown’s court appearance was filmed and exploited by the media. Two weeks ago at the Grammy awards, the couple were proudly affectionate and all smiles for the camera. The scene of RiRi and Brown didn’t just make people queasy, it made them furious.

But who’s right is it to be mad? It’s easy to voice an opinion when access to Twitter is lying inches away from you on your iPhone. But it’s hard to put yourself in Rihanna’s position. In her new song, “Stay,” Rihanna sings, “Funny how you’re the broken one, but I’m the only one who needed saving.”

She’s right. Brown hit her because something was wrong with him, for reasons that probably had very little to do with Rihanna. That kind of anger doesn’t grow out of just one person or one night. Rihanna always saw it this way. In her tell all interview with Oprah she discusses how worried she was about him once her bruised photos leaked. “I just felt like he made that mistake because he needed help and who’s going to help him?” she said.

I’m not saying I am #TeamBreezy. But I will not give a negative opinion on Rihanna and her decision to get back with Brown. When people are making tough decisions they need support, not criticism. If you shut them down immediately with hate, there’s no way they can think clearly, freely, and knowledgeably.

For a relationship to have a healthy ending, it needs to end on your terms. “I lost my best friend….Everything I knew was switched in a night,” she said to Oprah. Brown’s punch ended their relationship and the media set it on fire. It makes sense that Rihanna might go back to Brown to seek some closure, or heal (emotional) wounds.

If Rihanna was weak, she wouldn’t be able to see it that way. If she was truly weak she would have floated in whatever direction the media took her. She would have cried and made statements and quotes instantly. She could have easily taken on the victim role and ran with it. She didn’t need that.

“I could never identify with that word, ‘weak,’” she tells RS. “I couldn’t have come out of this if I was weak. No way.”

I’m #TeamRiRi.

 

  • Annie

    I love her new song! I just wish she would grow back both sides of her head.

  • Annie

    the hair on*. Calm down with that Skrillex shit RiRi.